DEERS is the Dendense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System, it’s basically how they keep track of dependents... you need to be enrolled in it to get Tricare or any benefits from the military. If she’s in that then his bosses should arelady know he’s married. Idk the exact details for the other branches, and I was never super involved in the FRG when my ex-husband was active.. but he’d most likely be getting more money for having a family, it would all go to him though (I feel like you saying her “getting her allotment” makes you think the military will pay her directly) with the expectations that he’d use it to take care of his family. You could probably still look up a Facebook page for the base nearest her, or his if you know where he’s stationed, and ask one of the more active wives, sometimes service members are in the groups too, to explain things to you so you have more solid facts to go to your DGD with about what’s bull and what should really be going on.

Does that mean she isn’t even registered in DEERS? His chain of command should know he’s married if she is registered... wow. Have you tried telling her what you do remember? Or maybe reach out to a local to her marine support page, there’s always something on Facebook... search the base nearest her, and see if there’s any marine wives who can talk to her about what he’s doing... because that all sounds shady as hell.

Facebook post I didn't make - Amazing how you can afford all those new gifts - XBox for your DH, expensive necklace for yourself, every toy imaginable for your kids - and haven't been able to afford health insurance or to pay your car insurance for months. BTW, youngest kid needs his ear tubes replaced, but they can't afford it. Great priorities.

Facebook comment I didn't make: My life is SO much better since you stuck a fork in our 'friendship.' I had no idea how much drama you brought into it.....so, yeah, thanks!

Facebook comment I didn't make: Holy damn, your husband is fucking hot. Good work, yo.

Facebook comment I didn't make: Nice pic! That's a hell of a lot of gifts for the grandkids! Maybe you should have used that money to pay their electric bill so she doesn't have to take money from your other daughter who's been saving up for a trip you don't want her to go on. Oh, right. I get it.

I agree 100%! When DGD came to us and told us she was pregnant, she told me her mom said they need to get married. The Ki d was in the military and I knew she'd get military allowances for her and the baby. But I also told her that being pregnant doesn't mean she has to be married. She lives at her parents' house, they watch the baby when DGD is working, and I'm sure they're contributing to DGD's expenses. The husband posts stuff on Facebook that he was out drinking with another country's military, or 'I'm the next white guy who's gonna get rich rappin'. I, for one, think she should sue him for child support. I checked with the military and found out DGD is getting HALF the allotment that he's probably getting. I fully expect him to hit the road within a couple years.

Update: DGD's husband DID spend the night with his wife and son, and posted lots of pics on Facebook gushing about being a good daddy. I can see the look on DGD's face, and it breaks my heart because I know she's not happy. She's living with her parents because he says he doesn't get enough allotment for her to live on her own (and I know that he's BS'ing her!). All I can do is keep my shut.....for now.

All the amazon lists you can click on through facebook this time of year are awesome. I will click on every last one of them. I absolutely love looking at all the cool gadgets. I've even bought a few. Not as gifts, they're for me. Hehe.

I follow the fasciablasting page for negative effects on Facebook. It's literally staggering how bad some things ended up for some people. I literally only used mine a few weeks and stopped because it hurt too much. I think one of the issues was that the maker of the tool actually encouraged people to bruise themselves a while back. Now she has recanted that statement since all the complaints started. But people have screenshots of the online conversations to prove they were told to blast at the highest pain level they could tolerate and that bruises were "signs of healing". I think a massage stick is just that....a tool. Used incorrectly, it can cause damage to your soft tissues, creating an inflammation effect Just like a hammer. Great for nails, use it on your hand and you will have problems.