Oh honey, I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I'm going through it too. This marriage probably won't survive, and if it doesn't, I won't ever get married again. Probably never even have a serious relationship either. My husband - an old boyfriend who I reconnected with - was the ONE person who I fully believed and trusted would never hurt me. And he does, constantly. So if HE can do it, well then that's it. I'll never trust my heart to another man ever again.

I am 5'1" tall and workout 5 days a week (burning about 500 calories each time, per my heart rate monitor and calculator). If I ate 1900 calories a day, I'd weigh 200 pounds. I usually come in at about 1300 calories a day. And that's just to maintain my weight, which is 123 pounds, so not even all that low. If you can eat 1900 a day, great. But not everyone can.

You guys ever heard of that saying "Everyone's got a cross to bear?" Addiction (to food, drugs, spending, etc.), unhappy relationships, abusive relations, problem children young & old, hoarding and other ocd, unrequited love, problem parents and siblings, knowing you're not good enough. In a way we are all doormats, not to anyone, but to our brains and hearts. If you are so mentally strong that you can say, "I don't know what you're talking about, I have no cross to bear", then you got gloriously lucky. My DH can be a total dick too on occasion, I really don't know if we're going to make it after our kids are grown. But I'll leave when I'm good and ready not because I want to prove anything to anyone other than myself.

A hearty congratulations to President Trump for making over 10,000 lies during his term. So for all you Trump supporters, No, that dress doesn't make your butt look fat. Yes it would be a joy to have you mother visit. And absolutely, you are the best when it comes to sex. You like being lied to so much I figured 3 more couldn't hurt.

It sounds like nobody has a gun to your head, making you say all these things. Grow a heart, stop being a bitch. This is 2019, there is no excuse for not having any manners.

Why is it ever okay to comment on anyone's body, period? Who cares if people mean "You're skinny, I hate you!" in a light hearted way? I would never comment on anyone's size, fat or thin or tall or short. People are often very aware that they are tall, or short, or large or small. It just makes you look insensitive when you make comments like that. I have had some pretty hurtful things said to me when I was at my lowest weight...things like "You look like a starving child" or "Ew, GROSS!! You look GROSS" I'm pretty sure they didn't mean it in a nice way. Any time I've heard a comment on my weight, it's been in either a derogatory or backhanded complimentary way. Just avoid it. End of story.

A hearty congratulations to all the ignorant anti-vaxxers for helping create the biggest measles outbreak in 25 years. Good job!

Calling out sick five times in seven months is too much? Haven't you ever gotten a bad cold, or the flu? I have sick days. They are mine, and I use them when I need to. There were times when I had none left. Right now I have 15- five left from this year and 10 that are banked from previous years. I shouldn't have to feel lucky to have this. Every worker should have paid sick days that they can use. If you have insomnia, haven't slept, and feel like shit, you should have the option of calling in sick. My union has a catastrophic leave bank. Each of us can donate a sick day to someone who needs it, so they can use those days if they run out and have to go on extended leave due to a serious illness like cancer or a heart attack. Anyone who donates a day is eligible to apply if they are in need. We take care of each other. I hate to see workers pointing the finger at other workers, and fighting like crabs in a barrel.

Thanks, OP. The sad thing is, even if dh woke up one day with a change of heart it is most likely too little too late. I've totally checked out emotionally.

Same-ish boat. Emotional unavailability for 10 straight years. 0 sex of physical contact for 12 months. Lived like roommates that didn’t really like each other. No one could help not even therapist because you can’t have only 1 person trying to save the marriage. Suddenly 1 day DH had a change of heart. Not just in words but in actions. It’s like men in black when he’s been killed by an alien and the alien is just wearing his skin. Not saying it will happen to you but it did happen here. And I feel your pain. My pain is all over this website.