I'm torn on this one. I think it really depends on what she's saying. I can see your point but on the other hand, it's nothing to be embarrassed about and the more we talk about mental health issues openly, the closer we are to un-stigmatizing them. It's normal to have trouble after losing a parent. She has nothing to be ashamed of or hide. It depends on how it's being presented.

I have a friend who tends to overshare about her oldest daughter's mental health. Her husband, their dad, died of ALS a few years ago and her oldest really struggles. The problem is that she's 12 now, and getting to the age where her friend's parents are friends with her mom on fb, meaning her friends are somewhat privy to her mom's posts about her having depression and anxiety. FB isn't a diary and she needs to respect her daughter's right to not have her personal struggles broadcast to her mom's 600 friends.

Dairy can be a big culprit with acne. I always had horrible acne until I eliminated it from my diet. My DH and his whole family were dairy farmers and practically lived on milk and cheese their whole lives and they all have horrible acne. But hormones can also be a huge culprit--I also had PCOS and once I got on BC pills that helped a lot. I honestly don't understand why you'd care about comparing your DD's skin to her cousins' unless you just want something to gloat over your sister's parenting methods about. Just seems petty since acne is such a hugely temperamental condition.

I posted a long while ago about how I ran into my exdh's sister, and she told me he was dying. She also said, "He wants you to know that he forgives you." I didn't know what she was talking about, but it wasn't the time or place to ask. Last year I was going through old papers and found our divorce papers. I now understood. He was mentally, verbally, emotionally and financially abusive to me. I asked for a divorce, but he's the one who filed. In his filing,he said that *I* subjected *him* to "extreme mental cruelty." But I just let it go because I was going to be moving cross country and would never see him again. BUT THEN I discovered that he'd closed our bank accounts, so I couldn't move, and a job op has kept me here. I see his sister here and there and hope that maybe one day I can set the record straight. Though I'm not sure she would believe me.

You're never to old to leave your abuser. I got a divorce from my abuser at age 70. Life is much better now and I found someone who is kind, thoughtful and caring. Advice - always be prepared for things to go wrong in a marriage and leave yourself an out. Put money aside that is only for you if you need it. If he hurts you mentally, physically, financially etc. - GO. You don't love him enough to put up with that kind of crap.

That original confession had reg flags a flying.. The fact that he started yelling and cussing at 6 am.. Until 7:30 am?? That's a pretty long time. And over something that she didnt even do? I get no marriage is perfect, my own is very far from it., but my dh would never spend 1.5 hours, first thing in the morning, screaming at me for ANY reason. I wonder if her dh has some mental issues.

You guys ever heard of that saying "Everyone's got a cross to bear?" Addiction (to food, drugs, spending, etc.), unhappy relationships, abusive relations, problem children young & old, hoarding and other ocd, unrequited love, problem parents and siblings, knowing you're not good enough. In a way we are all doormats, not to anyone, but to our brains and hearts. If you are so mentally strong that you can say, "I don't know what you're talking about, I have no cross to bear", then you got gloriously lucky. My DH can be a total dick too on occasion, I really don't know if we're going to make it after our kids are grown. But I'll leave when I'm good and ready not because I want to prove anything to anyone other than myself.

I'm the OP who started the whole "paying for college" debate - and I agree with you. My parents paid for my college tuition and books, as well as my car and insurance. They furnished my first apartment, helped with rent for several months as well as food, all until I could get on my feet. I am forever grateful, because life is hard, especially for young kids starting out. And I will do that for my child as well. Mine is going to CC first and then transferring because it's the smart thing to do, mentally and financially. He didn't have the benefit of a college-prep high school like I did (hs was harder than college for me!) so he doesn't need the added stress on top of what he has to deal with from his father. He works part time, covers his entertainment, helps immensely around the house and contributes some to his phone, car and some groceries. Plus he's on Honor Roll. That's enough for me!

Him acting like he had no control over the situation is what gets me. You have something fundamentally wrong with you if you think that it's ok, at any point in your life, to do what was done to Anita Hill.

The only time I am offended by comments made about my slimness, is when its referencing an eating disorder. Thank you, no, I am not mentally I'll, just because I'm thin. A very heavy coworker used to repeatedly make snotty comments like this. I got fed up and told her if anyone had a mental disorder, it was her.