My cousin died and I'm still having heartbreaking dreams about her, her dad is having a leg amputated as I type this (due to diabetes), I'm three days post op from my second Achilles' tendon repair (and have MAJOR swelling and pain), I'm dealing with idiots at my insurance office, and I'm trying to set up testing for my 84-year-old dad for the same thing his brother is having surgery for. I'm breaking out in intermittent sobs, I'm in so much fucking pain I want to scream, and I wish I could run far far away.

OP here. It turns out, this happened a while ago and I'm only hearing about it now. I didn't get all the info because DS told me about it by mistake. I wasn't meant to know, he let it slip. Also, it was a rough patch for both of them, they both acted badly. I asked was if they were past it and in a good place, he said yes. Then I asked if it was something that ever came up in arguments that they have NOW, he said sometimes. My only advice was that forgiveness is something that needs to be given freely and whole-heartedly in order to really move past something. I said that's true for any relationship. Then I said if he ever wants to talk about it, I'm here. But beyond that, I'm never going to bring it up again. I think I did okay.

Bless your heart, dear. I’m not from the south.

If you run a background check on someone, you don't ask them and you don't tell them. If you tell them, expect for them to be pissed. It's like saying "I don't trust you." I think it's a good idea though. Sometimes you shouldn't trust people! You could save yourself a lot of heartache

If my original post triggered you, hold onto your girdle because there's more where that came from! My mil is a walking caricature of a white old lady from the deep south. Not only is she a passive aggressive, bless your heart southern woman, she's also, and I'm sure this will shock you, extremely racist. When a black family moved into the house across the street, she literally called to say, "there goes the neighborhood." She thinks she isn't a racist because she has Mexican friends at church. She refuses to sit near black families in restaurants. If a black person walks past her in a store, the bitch will hold her nose. And every Sunday, she puts on her nicest dress and goes to church to pray for the sinners. She. Is. Awful.

I went to Overeaters Anon support group last for my binge and compulsive overeating which has been spiraling out of control since my breakup this summer. I’ve always had a complicated emotional relationship with food. It feels good to meet other people who are in the same boat! It was so heartwarming. The facilitators were most welcoming. One of them, an older guy, wore a tshirt that said got sushi? Lol like got milk? He was so kind. I’m going to check out more meetings to see which works for me.

So now it's okay to say southern women are passive aggressive bless-your-heart persons? I can't begin to tell you on how many levels this is biased and offensive. It maligns southerners and women. If you said the same thing about another group of people, like maybe transgender folks or hispanics, people on here would be freaking out.

My mil is like this. She's southern and has that passive aggressive bless yer heart shit down to a fine science. She's awful.

I took a video of DS23 while we were hanging out this weekend. He brought his guitar and sang & played a song. A few songs, actually some of which he wrote himself. He's just really talented and it makes my little heart all warm and happy. <3

I met up with a former hs sweetheart after we reconnected on FB. We hadn't seen or talked in 20 yrs. Well, it was a fantasy that should have remained one. Times and people change and for all you ladies pining over a lost love, it's usually not what you expect if you do attempt to try again.