My husband and I have been bugged to have children since we have got married. Now that we are far from family, we are starting to think of our having a child. We made the decision to wait a bit until we get settled in. I got one of those baby books, like the what to expect book NOT because we have already decided to go ahead and have the child but rather the book and at least get somewhat of an idea. It is better to know a little bit than jumping into the decision without knowing what we are getting into. Sure, there is no magical book that tells a parent how to be a parent with all of the hardships in life the child will face but at least with one of those baby books we get a vague idea what is ahead of us and even if we want to go ahead with it. Maybe it is a dumb decision...