I’m not the OP that you’re purposely trying to rile up. I’m sure your MIL is awful. She certainly sounds awful, but you are projecting a ridiculous stereotype. What makes you think these characteristics apply primarily to southern women? I’ve lived in both northern and southern states. I’ve definitely seen more of this type of behavior in the northern states I lived in. So, you know someone like this. That’s what you’re going on? The op has a point. If someone were to say a loud, obnoxious person in a movie theatre was a typical black person, everyone would lose their minds. I’m sure you will come back with “but.... privilege!”. By that logic, it’s ok to be a jerk to someone who has money, because they’re privileged? It’s not ok to make a-hole assumptions about groups of people.... or is it? You’re forming your opinions the same way your MIL does.

If my original post triggered you, hold onto your girdle because there's more where that came from! My mil is a walking caricature of a white old lady from the deep south. Not only is she a passive aggressive, bless your heart southern woman, she's also, and I'm sure this will shock you, extremely racist. When a black family moved into the house across the street, she literally called to say, "there goes the neighborhood." She thinks she isn't a racist because she has Mexican friends at church. She refuses to sit near black families in restaurants. If a black person walks past her in a store, the bitch will hold her nose. And every Sunday, she puts on her nicest dress and goes to church to pray for the sinners. She. Is. Awful.

So now it's okay to say southern women are passive aggressive bless-your-heart persons? I can't begin to tell you on how many levels this is biased and offensive. It maligns southerners and women. If you said the same thing about another group of people, like maybe transgender folks or hispanics, people on here would be freaking out.

My mil is like this. She's southern and has that passive aggressive bless yer heart shit down to a fine science. She's awful.

“I will build a great wall – and nobody builds walls better than me, believe me – and I’ll build them very inexpensively. I will build a great, great wall on our southern border, and I will make Mexico pay for that wall. Mark my words.”

The entire downtown and south side of our city is torn up for road construction right now due to some REALLY shitty urban planning. Anyways--they have stop signs up at some of the makeshift intersections and I swear, no one knows what the deal is with them. We can't tell if they're 4 way stops or not and I've witnessed about 9 near-misses in the last month at some of these intersections. I freaking HATE road construction for this reason. If they're going to rip up the road, have halfway decent detours.

A lady PMs me saying she wants a 14pc kids winter lot of clothes I have up for $15 (listed as pick up only near major intersection) & she wants to get it ASAP. We're in the south, it's 100 here, whats the hurry? I PM her letting her know she can pick up any time just let me know when. She says her car was totaled and has no way to pick it up & she's in a town that Google says is 40 minutes away (add an extra 10mins at least for traffic & lights). I told her it would probably cost me almost that much in gas so it wouldn't be worth my time. She said she'd pay me double, plus extra for gas. It sounded fishy, so I just said "Sorry it's pick up only". Then she goes on a rant "I told you my car is totaled and you can't be bothered to deliver so we wasted each others time" I said "Well, the ad does say pick up only". then blocked her. I didn't waste her time, she decided to message a pick up only item with a sob story and was mad it didn't work. Part of me feels this was a trafficking scam.

While I don't agree with the way migrants are being treated in the US, once again Americans act as if they are the only country with this problem. Currently Europe is experiencing their own migrant problems especially southern Europe. I've seen some that are aware of the problems Europe is facing with the influx of migrants and make comments about how European countries should take those people in but once it is turned to Americans taking in migrants they flip out and demand they return to their home country.

I grew up in the Midwest, went to college for 4 years down south and now live up north (where we my dh is from) and guess what, there were polite, friendly people AND rude assholes in all three locations. What a generalization to think everyone from a certain region are all the same.

I am kinda from the south, Texas to be exact. I have also lived in a few southern states. Southern politeness is a back handed way to keep you thinking they like you. In reality they are "polite'' so they can learn more about your life to turn around and gossip to their friends. I have witnessed too many times people talking about the person coming their way, turn on the charm and chat then continue talking about the person as soon as they walk away. Sometimes it is about what is going on in their life or what they are wearing. Northerners may not hold a door open or say Hi but so far I haven't experienced any doing the fake charm so they can gossip. In the south, gossipers hold a high position. You don't want to get on their bad side so everyone befriends them and gossips along hoping they won't get gossiped about.