I admit I am a little annoyed with my SIL. She has been on a diet and looks great. She works out and eats well. I have a lot more weight to loose and it is taking me a bit longer and it seems the healthier I get, the more weight I GAIN. I don't begrudge her weight loss but I wish she would stop rubbing it in my face by telling me how easy things were for her. I wish she would stop pointing out my gray hairs (I'm much younger than her but I have been getting gray hairs since I was 19) and pointing out how she does all these diet tricks when the conversation not about that. I keep thinking she still has this mean girl mentality so I just try to be kind as hell to her. There is no reason to lower myself but I wish she would knock her crap off.

I'm an activist (environmental, feminist, human rights) but also trying to be a positive person...I actually find it really hard to keep up with what is going on in the world and stay on the positive side. I seen a cover for Ms. Magazine recently and one of the taglines on it was "war, rape and abortion". Happy times. Sometimes I think I need a self enforced news blackout until I cheer up a bit.

As a childfree woman, nothing bugs me more than when people assume that I don't like kids. I like kids. Hell, I like kids sometimes more than I like adults because they haven't yet learned how to be judgemental, self-righteous twits. Kids are funny and weird and honest and creative. I just don't want to raise one.

Hanginin, I just read your post about meeting the girlfriend. There is a website called shrink4men I would like to suggest you visit. It is October / Domestic Violence awareness month. For October, they have guys submit stories of the women they were with with mental health issues. You can find these stories under the blog tab. What you are describing in your post is a red flag. Or it could be simply she is insecure. Either way. She will be around your kids, know what to look for. I hope she's normal.

I need advice from the brutally honest users of this site :) I started my job just a few months ago. There are 4 other people that work this position as well (front desk at a hotel. I work night shift). My off nights are supposed to be Friday and Saturday but the girl who worked those nights quit suddenly so I'm working them both this weekend. Would it be wrong of me to refuse to work next weekend if they don't have anyone hired by then? I don't think it would be "fair" (not to sound like a child) if I was the only one who didn't get my days off. I understand since I'm new I should suck up as much as possible, but I'm not a pushover. Should I suck it up and work the weekend again if they need me? This job is physically and mentally demanding and I need and deserve my days off to reserve my sanity...and to get stuff done at home!!

I can see that the judgementalness and bitchiness from truu have spilled over on to here.

I joined a few dating websites because of their ads for "free membership". The membership doesn't include being able to read messages from paid members. I get it, they need to make money but the prices to upgrade are ridiculous. I decided to join one of the sites because I received an email from one of the members I was interested in. After upgrading, I started reading through the 78 emails I received. I believe all of them were sent by the site itself. The messages were pretty much the same. I did "reply" to the email from the one member and have never heard anything back. I give up. I can't afford to upgrade on any of the other sites and, I know this sounds judgmental, but I didn't see anyone on any other sites I would be interested in. Some of these guys! 50 year old men, shirtless, ridiculous poses & screen names - "Pigboy", "I'll pleasure you", "Your desire". I guess I'll rely on chance encounters - I'll probably be alone the rest of my life. : (

I really feel like you can't have a decent conversation and behaviour out of most guys until their early 20s are over. I don't want to be judgmental, I know there's loads of guys who don't act like hormone bombs but I look back at most of my male friends in their early 20s and they were total dicks, they're all lovely now. I don't wanna say it's hormones because I think people use that to excuse a lot of bad behaviour, maybe it's a culture thing too. Maybe they feel the same way about us though.

I remember one time I didn't go to a class for 5 weeks straight and I didn't know there was an exam and I missed it. So I told the professor some bullshit story about how I just found out I was pregnant and I was in no mental state to take the exam and he let me sit for it. And then I found out I was actually pregnant and I ended up failing the class anyway cuz I was so mentally fucked up for the rest of the semester. Karma is real. And karma sucks.

My father has always counted on an inheritance from his mother. She is 95 years old (although, sadly, she hasn't been mentally competent for the last 5 years) and likely to out live him. He complains to me all the time that she is just 'spending his inheritance' on the rest home she lives in. He is barely scraping by on social security, and I've had to bail him out a few times when he has an emergency, since he has zero savings. I keep wondering if he realizes that he is setting one heck of an example for his only kid...