Speaking of hoarders and filthy houses...my aging ILs live in a manufactured home that is absolutely filthy. They are hoarders and they also have done a bunch of cobbled up addons that aren't to code and the entire house is a death trap. When they have to go to assisted living or pass away, DH thinks we'd sell it. I'm thinking we raze it and just keep the property (we'll inherit it). No way could we sell that stupid house unless we put hundreds of thousands of dollars into it. What on earth else do you about a house like that? You really can't remediate it and it's not like it's valuable enough to do that anyway.

No way would we ever call Adult Protective Services. Then we’d be caught up in a nasty legal mess for who knows how long. And, yes, my Dad would be SO pissed! DH and I are sneaking into town in a few weeks and I’m going to insist we go on a tour of a ‘supported living’ facility. There WILL be a decision made before we leave, one way or another. If the building manager where he lives now were to hear of the filth he’s living in, he’d be evicted in a heartbeat. He’s gonna have to put his big boy pants on NOW!

I'm not saying OP shouldn't call adult protective services, but when I called about my dad, the only thing that happened was that dad was pissed. I talked to my dad's doctor about it later, and she said that as long as the senior has a way to get food (even if it is just dialing for pizza), a place to live (even if there are holes in the roof), and running water (even if the only toilet is upstairs and dad is in a wheelchair), they are allowed to stay in their home.

As heartbreaking as your situation is, if it gets to that point again, I would call adult protective services.

Recently learned that my Dad's been living in filth (I live over 1000 miles away from him). Sent a woman to clean house and she was appalled. Not one clean dish or pan in the place, food in fridge that had expired a year ago, and a bathroom so filthy she couldn't get it clean. Brother (he lives 20 minutes away) and I have talked to him about assisted living; he screams at me and placates my brother. We want him to make decisions for himself but it's obvious he won't. Considering having him declared incompetent is breaking my heart.

OMG, I have a sister?!

Can I please me too this several hundred times?

"She's opinionated and always has to be right." I'm positive my mom would say the same about me. The reality is that she just never wants to be challenged, ever. She likes my easy going brother more than me because he just let's her get away with saying crazy crap. My mom will tell an outright lie about my childhood and if I challenge her, I'm being too opinionated. Not saying that that's what's going on in your family. Just saying it takes two to make a relationship work. Opinionated women are great. The world needs more of us. Good for you for raising one.

The baby shower Zoom party at work was a success! My coworker was shocked by the surprise! I made baby pics ppt of coworkers, bought cute onesie related to our field, ordered macarons with baby designs. Coworkers gave nice compliments on planning another great virtual staff party that was a lot of fun. I love leading these events to bring joy, humor, connection to our work.

A friend went on a rant on FB about gas costing her $60 more a month with the rising prices. She complained that now she can't feed her son because she has to reduce her grocery budget. She buys all organic and name brand. She spends $500 a month getting her hair cut, dyed, extensions, blow outs..etc. She tans, she gets her whole body waxed every couple of weeks, mani/pedis, eats out at fancy restaurants at least once a day, buys tons of expensive alcohol regularly, takes a week vacations every other month staying in expensive hotels and resorts....but the extra gas cost has to come from her sons mouth? I hate the rising prices too, but my child is my priority.