My ex owned a summer home. At first I loved it but soon after we were married he told me that I was not to consider it my home and that I had no input into who he invited, who he allowed to stay there, or how much his kids trashed the place when we weren't there. I was however allowed to clean, muck it out, repair, decorate, exterminate, do yard work and clean live snakes and mice out of the closets. The upkeep was horrendous. The cabin that started out being so pleasant when we were dating turned out to be a nightmare. It's one reason I divorced him. Can you see why I grew to hate this man?