I'm confessing here that I'm kind of pissed off at my husband for getting fat. People say it's part of getting older, but that is complete bullshit. I've given up an ever having sex again. I have no idea if he can even perform any more. He doesn't ever seem interested, and I have tried to talk to him about it, always to no avail. He's my best friend and I love him so much. But it pisses me off that he's done this to us. It doesn't help my self esteem, either, that my husband won't have sex with me. But honestly, I think the whole problem stems more from his weight than from anything I did or didn't do. It just makes me so angry and sad.