Sad today. Last night my DH said something hurtful, and when I told him I didn't like it he gave me the usual, "Sorry. I didn't mean it that way." I'm tired of that apology. It doesn't cut it for me. It doesn't really take responsibility. He said the words he said, and he didn't mean them in a nice way. He was rude about something personal (I don't even want to say what) and then acted like he was just showing concern when he was showing contempt. When people are showing concern they don't do it by being snarky and making you feel embarrassed. So no, I don't accept that treatment, and I don't accept this apology. A real apology would be, "You're right. I'm sorry I said that. It was hurtful and it was wrong." When someone hurts your feelings, their apology should show that they are accountable and that they actually care about your feelings. "I didn't mean it that way" is a defensive reaction that just seeks to excuse the behavior. I'm sick of this. How hard is it???

The guy I have been seeing for a few months told me yesterday to "take care of yourself" and "leave me alone" while we were having a minor disagreement while texting. Now he just tried to call me. No, I didint answer.

Exactly! I know we have more than $10 in our account, but I still check the balance before buying literally anything. And I know I can buy some new clothes, but I still find myself at the thrift shop for everything except shoes and underwear. I did, however, sign up for Ipsy as an exercise in treating myself. Damn near killed me lol.

I haven't bounced a check or gotten a shutoff notice in ten years and I still have poverty mindset. It's like a fear in the pit of your stomach that just lives there no matter what.

My husband just got a really good job. Like, we're in a different tax bracket for the first time ever, upward mobility, good job. Things are finally going really well for us after ten horrible years. Don't really have anywhere to say it irl, so I'll say it here. It's such a huge relief, but I don't know if I'll ever get out of the poverty mindset.

Anyone else have a know-it-all partner? My husband is constantly telling me how to do things or what I should do. One time I was putting the lid back on a jar of pickles, and it got stuck. He instructed me on how to unscrew it and re-screw it. No shit, Sherlock! Another time he lectured me on why I should have taken a different exit from a parking lot! But the worst is when it comes to work. I've had a couple positions in two different fields that need specific licenses/certificates. He knows NOTHING about either one. But anytime I try/tried to talk about something that happened at work, it's, "Well, what you need to do is..." or "You should have done this..." and I ALWAYS have one of two answers - either, "Yes, I did that," or, "No, we're not allowed to do that." It's so frustrating! I'm not a child!

I've always kept myself fit. When I met H 10 years ago, I weighed 135. I now weigh 165. He's a meat and potatoes guy, always expecting/cooking big, heavy meals, and wanting dessert every night. Plus he wants to eat out a lot. We're in our 50s now and I'm really unhappy and uncomfortable with the extra weight, but he doesn't want me to lose any. He literally said, "when a woman is heavy is shows she's happy," and also that he doesn't want me to lose my boobs. I told him it wasn't his choice. Today, I worked out and then took a shower and a nap. When I woke up, he said he had a surprise for me - it was a big bowl of ice cream with sprinkles, caramel sauce and cookies. If I didn't eat it, there would be a fight. So I ate it, then went to the bathroom and made myself throw up :(

It really sucks that I'm still searching for a compatible partner, even though there's a perfectly good man that loves me to death that I don't feel peace about being with. WTF.

My ex was a musician. While I don't miss him, I do sometimes miss hanging out with musicians. The ones I knew always had pretty good weed. Not great, but decent. And watching a song writer drift off while they play is pretty close to magic. Sometimes, I just miss being around that energy. Maybe I'm just an old nostalgic groupie lol.

My sister's FIL has COVID "long-hauler" syndrome. He had a particularly severe case and also had the vaccine and reacted poorly to it (he had a reaction). Now, he's facing a lot of mental health struggles and has been very depressed. His wife, my sister's MIL, is so freaking unsympathetic to him...telling him he needs to just get his ass out of bed and start "living life", etc. She doesn't seem to get that he needs actual help to do that and it doesn't involve his wife just screaming at him to "get better". Then again, I've been guilty of being unsympathetic too. I really have to work on that. We all have our struggles.