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Posted by: anonymous
2017-01-28 01:54:23
ID: 44465
Nobody said SAHM are stupid! The point is, you have to be able to support yourself and your children without the benefit of a second party. It just makes sense to not put yourself and your children in a position of being stuck in a bad spot because of money. It is something you need to plan for and arrange to the best ability with the options available before having kids. What if the other person died? Too often it seems that women (mostly) have kids and just assume the other party will help pay for it all. Then something goes wrong and they are stuck.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-01-27 21:56:56
ID: 44472
I'm the OP with the hoarder DH. I found an ad for a flea market this weekend. I told DH he should get a vendor spot and take a lot of his junk--uh, stuff--up there to sell off. He agreed and what doesn't sell is going to the thrift store. I hope he sells some of it and makes a little money, but honestly I'm just glad he's getting rid of stuff.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-01-27 06:33:28
ID: 44458
I caught my ex in a lie! He was complaining on how he's been working for 2 months straight, 7 days a week but gets every 3rd weekend off. And that he's working so many hours he barely has time to eat. So I'm like... "oh then you should be able to pay some of your back support that you owe", then he switched and said "No, I'm only getting 40 hours a week." Ok, so your job, where you're a foreman, gave you a company truck to drive 4 states away to live in a hotel for a few months...only to make you work 5.5 hours a day? I smell BS! He knows that I quickly catch on and call him out on his lies. He did what he always does when I call him out on his lies...he ignores me.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-01-26 20:23:51
ID: 44447
Not every stay at home mom is in a precarious financial situation but many are. That's why I think it's important to teach our girls to be able to take care of themselves, just in case anything should happen. I have a good friend she's 55 years old has been a stay home wife and mother for her entire adult life. Her marriage is really really bad right now, her husband has turned into a complete asshole and she is afraid to leave. It breaks my heart every time we talk. she did get a college degree but only worked for a few years. Her skill set is way outdated by this time and companies in her field are going to hire younger workers, not people her age. She's not gonna be able to support herself on a minimum wage salary. Even if they split the house and all their belongings it's not like her husband was ever a very rich to begin with. Her kids are busy with raising their own children and can't take her in. She feels very trapped.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-01-26 19:00:55
ID: 44442
The average annual salary for a full-time nanny is about $36,000. So if you are staying home doing all the things a nanny would do, then you are basically earning a $36,000 salary.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-01-26 18:45:11
ID: 44427
i don't think SAH wives or moms are stupid at all. everyone's situation is different. just speaking for myself and myself alone - i wouldn't feel right not being able to contribute financially to my household. yes, i know that isn't the only way to contribute but but it's just how i feel. i'm independent-minded and i worked my ass off for my career which i love and I wouldn't feel right having my husband be the sole breadwinner. before anyone jumps down my throat, i just want to reiterate that I am only speaking for myself and not making assumptions about anyone else's feelings, relationships or financial status. please do whatever option works best for you and your family.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-01-26 18:44:28
ID: 44412
I love my bf but I think he's cheating on me. We've been together almost 7 years now but the past year things have been rocky between us cause I've put so much effort into our relationship and doing nice things for him when he barely gives me any thought when it comes to gift giving and recognizing me other than on my birthday and Valentine's day. He's been distant, found that he's clearing the history on our computer and all of a sudden he's working lots of overtime yet he's hiding his paychecks from me, though I haven't asked to see them but I tore apart the house looking for them but I can't find them. All of a sudden he's working odd hours too. I'm doubting myself, maybe I'm just overreacting but I know I should trust my gut instinct.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-01-26 14:06:31
ID: 44425
In response to a confession. My point with sharing my step-sister's story was that you can't assume all (or even most) SAHMs are stupid. You have no idea what someone's financial situation is. I see a lot of people here assuming that all SAHMs are screwed if they need to leave, which is not true. I know a ton of working moms who would be screwed if they got divorced. They have built a life around two incomes and would have no way to afford their house, neighborhood, car, private schools, etc. without their husband's income, even though they may have successful careers too.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-01-26 00:30:00
ID: 44390
In response to a confession. Yes, because she planned, got an education and a career before having children, and did not put herself in a position of getting stuck with a husband she didnt want because of money. She looked after her best interests, she's smart.
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Posted by: anonymous
2017-01-25 23:13:28
ID: 44396
My DH is the most depressing person to talk to sometimes. He comes home from work and whines about how crappy his day was. He stays up late just arguing with me about politics and talking about various mechanic-stuff he's working on in the garage (sorry, DH, but I do not give a damn about gear ratios, torque, or whatever else you are yammering about). He never just wants to talk about anything light-hearted. He's always analyzing every single thing that happens and he's just exhausting to listen to. I need some better people to just chat with. People who don't constantly make me feel on edge and exhausted.
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