After my divorce I started texting my old hs bf, who was single and still interested. We met for drinks one night, it was awkward and I realized we had just grown apart from our hs days. I'm glad I went though, killed that fantasy real quick! And realized I wasted many hours daydreaming about him.

Even if I was welcome I wouldn't want to live in my inlaws basement...yuck. Maybe when they die I could see moving in and taking over but otherwise, no thanks!

I used to be a casual smoker then quit about 5 yrs ago. My dh is a heavy chain smoker. He used to not be so bad but now it's out of control. I don't mind when people some around me, it doesn't bother me at all. But lately he is really reeking more that usual. His clothes, his car, even when he showers the bathroom stinks like a wet ashtray. It has become the biggest turn off ever. Plus he has a few beers at night so you can imagine his breath. I hate sleeping next to him at night. Even after he brushes his teeth I can smell it on him. He won't quit either. Not sure what to do.

Plus I'm sure it's not too easy just to walk out of a marriage if there are kids to think about. That's probably why many people stay in a marriage way beyond its expiration date.

To the ones missing your first/High school boyfriend: are you really missing the person himself or just the nostalgia and the good old times and feelings of that powerful first love? Would it be the same now if you were to get back together with him? Now that you're not carefree youngsters? Now there are mortgages, kids, exes, etc.. not being snarky, just curious.

If it were that simple, a lot of us would probably be single right now.

Realization: two years ago, my ex-long-distance-boyfriend and I got back together after a breakup and had video sex for the first time one night, and then again the next morning. I remember in the morning, hearing a man's voice in the background saying, "well, HELLO!" Just realized he must have added a friend to our video chat at that moment, someone that I wasn't able to see, but who could see me...completely. He brushed off the voice as nothing, but he wasn't into the sex that morning, and now I get why. Trying to process this. I know with all my heart that that's what he did. I just hadn't realized he was that much of a scumbag until now. I feel really used.

In a perfect world, no one would care if people filed for divorce. In reality, there's still a stigma. I lost a few friends and family members who thought my ex was this sweet, innocent man. I was demonized because no one really knew what a dick he could be. Divorce is a huge, life-changing decision that turns your whole world upsidedown. It's easy to say live your life, but life just isn't that simple. Of course, I'm glad I got divorced, but it fucking sucked going through the process.

Maybe you should not be concerned with what you might look like. Who cares? Actually, nobody. Do you think you have to answer to anybody that may not feel you are justified in getting divorce? Fuck that. Live your life.

My DH dropped a huge bomb on me the other day. He said that in a few years, he wants us to move into his parents' basement and take over their farm. Um, hell no. MIL has told me a few times that she would never let her grown children or their spouses move back in with her. I told DH that I do not want to live where I am not welcome and he is getting all pissy with me about it. I'm sure he hadn't mentioned to his parents that he wants to move in with them. Uh, hello DH--it's their house; you have to ask if you want them to let us live there.