We don’t fight very often and never raise our voices at each other but I hate how my husband always brings up past fights and arguments long after they’re over. He does it in a joking manner but it’s still annoying. I’m the type of person where once we’ve hashed things out and fixed things, I’m done and move on. For example, we got in a disagreement years ago outside of a store. I don’t even remember what it was about but practically every time we drive by this place he’ll smile and say “remember when we got in an argument there?” or “remember when you said this there?” why? Why bring this shit up all the fucking time? Joking or not it’s irritating as hell.

I'm very upset with dh at the moment. He is having knee surgery Friday morning and he doesn't understand why I'm not ok with his sister, bil, 2 yr old and dog coming tomorrow and staying until Sunday. I'm supposed to be studying for my nursing test which is next Thursday and I really didn't need this extra hassle. I spent all day cleaning and getting the house ready when I should have been studying. I took this week off specifically so I can concentrate on studying and I feel like my feelings are being stomped on. He doesn't get why I'm upset with him. I had planned on basically not doing any housework this whole week, but because he went and screwed up his knee everything is still falling on me. More stuff because he can't do anything.

Ignore and block this friend, too. It's called "hoovering." Avoid at all costs.

I got a private message on Facebook from a high school friend that exDH wants to talk to me. We were married for less than four years, no kids, and have been divorced for 40 years. I forgave him years ago for being an abusive aldulterer, not because he deserves it, but because I do. I have no feelings for him AT ALL. My BFF thinks he's dying or something and needs to clear his conscience, but I really don't feel I owe him anything.

My dh and I have had a rough two years because of his mother. We moved to be close to her because of her imaginary heath issues. I sacrificed my career, my schooling, a good chunk of my retirement fund, and my health. I'm not complaining, though, because I found something that I love to do and am slowly building a new career. My dh has been so bitter and jealous toward me because he has a 9-5 career. I'm not sacrificing what I love. Misery loves company and I'm not getting a shitty job just so he can feel like he can have someone to commiserate with. I've supported him through thick and thin, and it's time he returned the favor. I never made him feel guilty and shitty for not making a lot of money. It's really opened my eyes and I feel like he was only with me for money. Sorry, just had to vent.

I hope it isn't too awkward working with him after the inevitable break up occurs. Sorry, op, I've been there, the dreading his texts and his little annoyances probably won't go away.

Obviously he has zero respect for your wishes. Get your key back and draw some boundries, although with people like him it usually doesn't work.

My boyfriend is driving me bonkers. He was out of the country for a wedding and has been clingier and more desperate for attention than when he's here. And we work together... he keeps saying weird things that makes me feel like all the nice stuff he does for me is some way to get me dependent on him and the "favors" he does me. Like bringing my car from where I park to right outside our job no matter how many times I ask him not to...he has my spare key and uses it to go get my car daily. idk, this time away has given me time to think about his negative features without him being around to remind me of his positive ones. I've come to dread the sound of my text notifications because he has been texting me so much while he was gone.

Thank you, Foxy for saying what is true an what I need to hear!!!! Still so hard...

I'm so confused. Sorry someone ended it with me - someone not for me, out of sync, except still upset and offended that HE ended it. I feel like a stalker etc bc he blocked me - wtf? I thought I inadvertently brought drama to the relationship but now I think it's him - changing "rules" and norms all the time. Saying he won't text anymore ever and texting within minutes. I am just lost, hurt, pissed and can't let go Wtf, me, what is going on? :(