It's now been 3 months no contact with Boss. Yes, I have checked his wife's Facebook, but nothing new there. She really doesn't post much. Our old team usually has an annual conference in town. All the managers fly in for it. We used to attend, and I looked forward to it because it was a week in office that we got to spend together. I still chat with folks from the old team, since I still work at the same company. There's a 50/50 chance of them having the conference this year. If so, they will probably all go to dinner one night. The invite would be extended to both of us to join, and we would both go. Other than that possibility, I think I'm just going to wait for a work related reason/question for him and reach out. Hopefully that will start a conversation. 1/2 - cont'd

Hmm.. Interesting.. That sucks that you haven't talked to him in so long. Do you ever stalk his wife on Facebook anymore?

I haven't had any contact with Boss in 2 months. That's the longest we've gone without chatting. But I think about him all the time. I had a dream about him a few nights ago, and then thought about him the whole next day. I went back a read old messages, and looking back, they were more flirty and personal than I thought they were at the time. I have always said that we never did or said anything that our spouses couldn't see, but maybe not. Nothing at all sexual, but a lot of saying things like, "I miss talking to you everyday," and heart emojis. It seems like one of us always comes up with a work excuse to touch base (question about a contract or something), but the time between contacts is getting further apart :(

The new job is going horribly. No matter how hard I try, I'm just not fitting in. I was taken off a project today, and I'm really afraid they're just going to let me go. I don't know what to do. I've never been in this situation. I have decades of professional experience and have always been a top performer. A confidant said that a couple of people felt like I could be condescending. I just feel horrible about it. I like these people, and I never, ever meant to come off that way. And I honestly don't even know what I said or did. Like I said, I've never had that feedback before. Ever. I feel like a complete failure and that maybe I'm just not good enough to have a job at this level.

Hmm, who was the really cute guy with a cute brown dog at the office park?? Trying to remember if I have seen them before as I vaguely remember another guy with his dog, but I thought it was a pitbull. Hoping I see him again to make my dreadful work days a bit brighter. I only get outside a few breaks throughout the day and usually leave for lunch, though.

New boss is in town, so I had to go into the office today. Boss and I ended up texting off and on all day. Mostly work stuff, but also just some jokes and our usual banter. But he said some really nice things. Mostly about my new job and how he's happy for me, and I deserve it, etc. He knows how much of a step up this is for me. I needed to hear that right now. And I gave him the kind words right back. Anyway, it was nice chatting with him. Still miss him like crazy though. And it feels weird going into the office, and he's not there.

Awesome, I'm so glad things turned around for you OP. I'm sure you blew the meeting waaayy more in your head than in real life! Glad to hear about boss too, both of you silently wondering why you haven't heard from each other.

Good update! So shortly after I posted about Boss, he texted. He was super, super apologetic and said he felt so bad. He said he totally thought he responded to me and was wondering why I hadn't replied, then he realized he never actually responded to me. He really did feel bad, and I think he was feeling all the things I was feeling thinking that I was the one who ghosted him. He can't meet for lunch the day I can, and I can't meet the days he can. Damn jobs LOL. But it's all good with him. Still miss him like crazy, though. Had another meeting with new boss, and it went really well. She told me that she was really happy I was there and thought it was going to be a great fit, so I feel much better. Maybe I didn't blow the meeting as badly as I thought. She'll be in town next week, so I'll get to meet her in person. Feeling much better about things. But that was a hard couple of days.

Don't beat yourself up over the new job OP. You're still new there. But that is weird about the boss.. Don't buy into the "too busy" excuse. Everyone has 30 seconds to send a text. I'm curious too as to why he hasn't reached out, at all. Hope you can figure it all out, both professionally and personally. He seems like a decent guy that would at least explain things before just ghosting you. Keep us updated.

I haven't heard from Boss in 3 weeks, since right before I started my new job. I was kind of disappointed that he didn't reach out to ask how it's going but blew it off to he's just busy. I am going to be in the office next week and texted to see if he could meet for lunch. He hasn't responded. It's been 2 days. I think it's deliberate. I think I'm not going to hear from him again. And it hurts. To make matters worse, I feel totally in over my head at the new job. I completely blew a big meeting with my boss today. I literally just froze and blanked out. She tasked me with a big project, and I don't understand it. At all. She's been so nice and gracious and explained it to me 12 different ways, and I still don't get it. I just feel like an idiot. An idiot to think that he really liked me or that I could handle such a higher-level job. Not a good couple of weeks.