Well, the Thanksgiving I dreaded went well. Two from our family showed up (six begged off), and our neighbor who just lost her husband joined us. She was SO appreciative to have been invited. When I realized I couldn’t donate the food as I’d planned to do, I did a thing. A woman 50 miles away posted in a group I’m in that she and her two kids had no food for T’giving. I messaged her and she seemed genuine, so I placed an InstaCart order for her…fully cooked dinner. She was to pick it up Wed., and she did. Then ghosted me! Left the group and blocked me. Live and learn, I guess.

Thankful for you guys and this site.

I live in the UK and it's a joke here too.If you need anything other than SSRIs, then you're screwed. Addictions, personality disorders, neurodivergent conditions like ADHD/Autism, anything that SSRIs cant treat, you're screwed. Even if you're suicidal there's years long waiting lists for therapies. I have BPD, which they do have medications which can at least help a bit, but they refuse to give them in the UK. I ended up having a huge fight with my GP because if they're not going to give me meds and they are "unable" to give me therapy in their words, they're basically leaving me with nothing...and borderline personality disorder carries the highest suicide rate of any mental illness. They're basically signing off on people's death warrants. Of course, BPD affects women more than men so there's also the medical misogyny at play. Then they wonder why society seems to be getting more and more unstable.

100% agree. The one and only time I ever tried to get help, through a community organization because health insurance doesn't cover mental health, and OMG. The first session I told the guy my mother died when I was little. And I was struggling to leave a toxic relationship. Second session? Start talking about said toxic relationship and the guy told me to go live with my mother. And he was looking at the notes he had taken at the first session too. I never went back. OH! OH! And also, they sent me a bill for several hundred dollars for the sessions even though I signed up through a community outreach free thing. Lovely. You're 100% correct.

You know how they tell you if you're struggling with your mental health, to "reach out for help?" Yeah, it's just fucking gaslighting. because there ain't none where I live, even pre-pandemic.

Trying to buy bras on Amazon. How the F*CK do I narrow it down by size? I need a 32 inch band. Every GD bra I like starts at size 34. And forget 100% about finding my size in an actual store. I freaking hate shopping. *sigh* Are pepper bras any good I wonder?

I told everyone that we would be repeating last year's excellence by not attending family holiday events. I bought food for us to have at home, got the house spiffed up so we can put up christmas decorations in peace and enjoy our week with the kids. My H went behind my back and told his family of course we will be at your toxic disgusting gathering so you can abuse my wife with your idiotic comments. No sir, I will not be attending. His family never fails to make ugly comments about us only having 2 kids ("but what will you do if one of them dies?" Exact quote) and other shit. But thanks for ruining my plans. Guess I will be spendng Tgiving alone, being the bad guy from afar! Yay.

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When I was in my 20s I used to host 20-30 people every year for Thanksgiving. I wasn't the best cook, and I lived in a trailer. But dammit, everyone came for the holiday and had a good time. It was the only holiday that we all got together, siblings and cousins and the one remaining parent. Fast forward to now, both my parents are gone, those cousins are the parents now and the siblings are all the grandparents. (including me). And nobody is coming anymore. Last year it was covid, this year I think they just don't want to come. My son and his family are coming and that's it. My daughter isn't even coming. She's living with her boyfriend and is going to his family holiday. My siblings and their kids and grandkids are not coming. I think this year I'm going to start passing on my turkey day tips and recipes to my daughter in law. It's gonna be her turn at this hosting business soon. I have to be okay with it.

My MIL makes me so tired. Every time she comes over she causes so much trouble. Giving the kids coffee, taking them all over the place without asking or letting me know- and yesterday she tried to cook. She can't cook, she's so flighty she forgets she's cooking. So i come home to scalded, burned messes in 2 of my pots and she put my cast iron skillets in the dishwasher. Now I get to spend all day scouring and reseasoning my pots and pans instead of doing what I was going to do today. And now she's texting me ADVICE on cast iron care. No ma'am. Not today.