Damn, betrayal hurts..

Isn't the price of hiring a handyman worth it if it keeps you from arguing for a month? I'd pay to keep from listening to my husband banging around and cussing all day. I could've had a guy in and out of here in an hour.

Anyone have a DH who keeps putting repairs off but gets mad if you try to hire a handyman? Last year my DH said to throw out our old grill because it wouldn't start. I had a repair person out and DH talked to him. Turns out that DH had him clean the igniter instead of replacing it so a year later we're in the same boat and he refuses to let me get a handyman even though I bought the part and got three bids. He says it's the wrong part and THAT WE SHOULD BUY A NEW GRILL. Sure- let's buy a new grill for $400 that will rust out in 5 years instead of maintaining our old grill that is actually well made. Over a $17 part. That a guy would replace for $80. Okay.

Awwww! I was the girl who was best friends with the gay guy. Sometimes people thought we were dating, but not even close, even though we went to prom together three times. We lived in a small town where no one was openly gay, and he was from a strict Christian family. When he was 20 I finally said to him- If you ever want to talk to me about the fact that you are gay, I'm here for you. He was living with a boy and STILL couldn't say it. He didn't come out to his mom until he was 40. Looking back I didn't understand how hard it was for him.

In high school, I had a crush on a boy who seemed like he liked me back, but never made any moves. He hung out with other girls though, went to dances, but never dated any of them. I was a very pretty girl, and so confused why he didn’t like me back. Now decades later I’ve found out that he was gay all along. Now everything makes sense. He only hung out with girls who didn’t like him back because it could never go anywhere. Ohhhhhhhhhhhhh.

i stay w/my DH because I don't want to lose my house. This is the first and only house I've ever owned, and I love it. We've been here for 20 years. I have a good job, but I could never afford it on my own. If we divorced, I'd have to buy out his half (community property state). And it's appreciated in value so much, there's no way I could do that. I know I should leave, but I hate the idea of my kids losing their childhood home - their only home. I want them to come here for holidays with their kids. I want them to always be able to come home. To have that security.

44 years ago he said ‘you’ll never amount to anything stout me’ as I was walking out the door. Bought my first house at 23, a new car at 24, and at 25 met the love of my life and have a happy life ever since. Moral of my story: if he tells you you’ll never make it, laugh at the son of a bitch.

The divorce is final, and I'm back on the dating scene after almost 20 years. I have no interest in annything other than casual relationships right now, but after a sexless marriage, I was looking for to that part. But, um, is it just me, or have penises gotten smaller in 20 years? It's not like my DH was the only guy I've been with, so I have some experience to compare to. I've hooked up with guys I was crazy attracted to, only to be wildly disappointed when they drop their drawers.

In our younger years DH had a serious drinking problem. He got it under control and hasn’t had any issues in 20+ years. Last night we had a few couples over on the deck, and he started drinking early. At the end of the night six people staggered home and DH couldn’t get in the house without help. He immediately passed out then peed the bed. Yes, it’s the first time in 20+ years, but my fight or flight gene is telling me to fly.

I try not to text friends out the blue for favors, but had to tonight with a timely favor. Not surprisingly two came through in a really big way! I am so blessed to have met them through work and it's been years now. Love ya, K&D!