Men are 100%, absolutely capable of all of this. They pretend that they aren't so that you (and women in general) will just do it for them. Weaponized incompetence. They can schedule meetings, manage office staff, get reports done on time without a chore chart, buy office supplies, and run companies. They can schedule a doctor's appointments, do laundry, and run a house. But they know that if they act stupid, you'll just do it for them.

Bottom line: I'll take what I can get. If he makes the trip to pick up the grocery order (takes 1.5hrs to drive there and back) then that means I don't have to. I'll take it. Maybe he will never ever do the laundry the way I like it, or understand our tax return, or notice that he spilled some coffee grounds on the counter. But I will never have to split wood or clean dog shit from the back yard. Yeah, I do more work than he does. Exponentially more of the running of the household falls to me. Maybe future generations will remedy this. But for now, friends and neighbors, I'll take what I can get. And like I said, I'm not going to let this fly with my son. He WILL be better than this.

Yeah. About this. I don't know what world you're from that men are even half as capable as women but it's not my world. I'm not convinced that my DH's incompetence is weaponized, I think it's pretty genuine. In my experience men are genuinely incompetent. They have their specific areas of expertise, sure. But to run a house, and a family, and a career, and a ... LIFE? They can't do that. By themselves? Ha! They sure as shit can't do it well. They 100% can't do it as well as any woman. I set higher expectations for my son. But the ones that were already here, that I didn't raise myself? Pft. LOL. Expecting them to be as competent as women is laughable. I'm not saying they can't be, I'm just saying they're NOT. As a general rule.

I get where you're going with this, but it's really just enabling his weaponized incompetence. And it still makes the burden of making sure the family has food fall on you. These men are adults. Instead of catering to them not wanting to be an actual partner, we should set higher expectations for them.

What are the chances I would see an old friend in the middle of workday at the same print shop. I don't think she saw me as we did not pass by. We had a big fight mons. ago and been out of touch, but somewhat reconciled though we have not talked a lot since. I happened to move to her area recently. I was bit tempted to say hi, but I realized how damn tired and haggard I look. She kinda looked the same, so perhaps she just needed to take care of urgent errands without being bothered. I could reach out to her soon since I miss our friendship.

I know Walmart is evil but their grocery pick-up service has solved this issue for my house. I can shop for groceries on my phone just like I shop on amazon. (yeah, I know, they're evil too). Now when I send the hubs to get groceries he doesn't ever forget anything and doesn't buy a bunch of junk food. It's so convenient.

Anyone else have a DH who goes to the store and only comes back with half the stuff on the list, so you have to go to the store anyway? Why is it impossible for men to buy something if the don't know where it is or if they don't personally care about it. My fave is when he does this without checking with me. Sometimes there's something I know we need but I didn't put it on the list yet. Sometimes I need to look at the list and think it through. I haven't planned dinner, but my husband came home with kale (thank you), almonds, no mini frozen meatballs that I wanted, and nothing for dinner. And I'm supposed to say "Thank You!" like he's "helping me"? I STILL HAVE TO GO TO THE STORE, LOL

I am assuming you are being sarcastic. I'm sorry you are being treated this way, and I hope you can do something about it.

Alert the media! I actually had SEX on Valentines Day! It'd been almost a year. I don't even care that it only lasted 5 minutes and I didn't finish. My husband is still attracted to me! Woot!

Why do men stink up the bathroom and then not use air freshner? It's like they're proud of it.