Add me to the my-husband-is-useless club. He thinks he's the most awesome husband ever because he'll pick up the kids if I ask, and he'll unload the dishwasher every once in a while. (eyeroll). Working on my exit plan too.

I'm in the same boat. Married to a useless man. I no longer love him and want out of this marriage. Thanks to the current economical climate, it'll take me a little longer than 2 years to be able to leave, but I'm working on it. Cheers to a brighter future!

We had a great lunch! It felt like old times again and we both apologized. I feel relieved and happy.

I sat down and actually ran all the numbers and did all the math. 2 years. I'll be able to leave my husband in 2 years. It's not an abusive situation or anything, so I'm not in danger. He's just well, a man. I'm tired of doing everything. He's not a bad person. But he's basically just here. Taking up space. A walking paycheck. He contributes nothing else. He doesn't engage with anyone, including the kids. I'm done. My youngest will leave for college, and I'll leave to start a new life. He'll be devastated, but oh well. Been telling him this for 20 years and he's done absolutely nothing to change it. I have 2 daughters and we're very close. They both plan on college out of state near my family (totally their choice). I'll settle near them. We'll live happily ever after without him.

I reached out to an old friend after a big fight we had several months ago. I thought she would say no, but she's open to meeting up. This is progress. Hope we can apologize and move on. I could use a friend right now.

Well, I made it 3 days post op. DH was so attentive and didn't want me to lift a finger. This morning he woke up with a GD cold and has acted like it's the end. He coughed so decided he needed a cig. His nose was stuffed up so he took a Benadryl and slept for three hours. Then he asked if I'd make him sloppy jo's and mac 'n cheese (homemade of course) for dinner. So it took me longer than usual (did I mention I had bariatric surgery 3 days ago?), but I got it done. Kitchen cleaned, pain pill on board, and I told him his dinner was ready. "I'm just not hungry. I'm too sick to eat." I threw it all away, started the dishwasher and told him that he is officially on his own. I prepare my meals; he prepares his. I'm not allowed to drive yet or I'd be outta here!

Yep! I’ve had eight people contact me via Messenger asking about my surgery. SD told three people, who told the rest. And the rude questions have begun. But my surgery is tomorrow and I’M READY!!

I'm having bariatric surgery next week. It started out as a last ditch effort to get the weight off, but after many months I was told my body is failing me, so my goal now is much more than that. I have shared my journey with a few people and have told DH that I will decide who knows and how much. SD45 called him yesterday and I was doing stuff so didn't hang around. Thirty minutes he said 'I told her how well your pre-op doc appointment went yesterday.' I snapped around and asked what she said and his reply was 'she's having surgery? What kind?' And he proceeded to spit it all out! I am SO pissed at him! He had to know from the jump that she didn't know, yet he filled her in. I'M SO PISSED! She will tell everyone back home and it is MY decision to share it. He took that away from me dammit!!!

Being prodded, nagged, and emotionally coerced into sex eventually caused me to completely shut down sexually. Not good advice. I think this is the reason that a lot of couples stop having sex. No one talks about it but it is sexual abuse.

For various (very good) reasons I don't want to say here, I haven't had sex with my husband in a while. He just told me that he was talking about it with his sister. Her advice? "Sometimes women just get into a funk. You need to kind of force it." Apparently, when she doesn't want to be intimate with her husband, he just prods her until she gives in, and then she enjoys it. I'm horrified!!! (PS don't be alarmed by the "fave," Sometimes I fave my own posts so I can find them easier)