I'm 49 and at the age where a lot of my friends are getting divorced since kids are older. With the exception of one, all of their marriages ended because women were tired of carrying all of the load, especially the mental load. And in just about every case, their husbands were shocked, SHOCKED, that their wives were that unhappy or that there was a problem. They're all like, "Why didn't you say something?" Seriously? They've been saying something for the past 20 years. They got tired of saying something and they shouldn't even have to. It's not like you didn't see laundry, grocery shopping, and making dinner getting done. And emptying the dishwasher twice a week is not exactly equal to her doing it every other f-in time along with everything else. Yeah, I'd think everything was fine too if someone did everything but wipe my ass for me too. But that's not a partnership.